How To Be Your Own Best Friend (10 Ways)

You can’t go wrong with making friends. In the absence of your best friends, you’d all be lost. Be it months or decades, you just know when there’s a special connection with your bestie and your relationship only gets stronger over time. 

That’s why you can only do certain things with your best friend because they’re always up for anything.

Do you have a best friend who you look up to? Unless “me” was the first name that popped into your head.

To be your own best friend, you must first be kind to yourself. This means accepting yourself rather than punishing yourself for your flaws, errors, etc., spending time learning about yourself, and seeking solitude. Also, remember to enjoy and praise yourself for every small success.

In this article, we will help you learn how to become your own best friend and start being there for you.

The best friend you will ever find is you. 

You must love yourself with joy to fill your heart with bliss and happiness.

–Debasish Mridha–

10 Ways to Become Your Own Best Friend

When you have a best friend, you can confide in, rely on, and celebrate life’s milestones with.

As a result, developing the ability to be your own best friend means that you can rely on your judgment and serve as your reassurance when you need it most. 

To be your own best friend is a great way to overcome feelings of loneliness, insecurity, and instability in your life.

Positivity and productivity go hand in hand, and it’s possible to cultivate these traits by working on your inner issues and challenges over time.

Here are ten ways to cultivate positive self-talk and treat yourself as if you were your own best friend.

1. Be gentle with yourself

Being a friend to yourself begins with treating yourself with respect and kindness. That means that you must stop berating yourself and blaming yourself for your shortcomings.

Take the first step toward self-acceptance by acknowledging your positive traits and abilities. Your self-talk should be more supportive and caring if it isn’t already.

2. Develop self-awareness

This is similar to the previous point but differs in that it doesn’t necessarily involve becoming aware of your personality, but rather your inner workings, such as your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, assumptions, motivations, etc. 

Self-awareness is the first step toward gaining insight into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, which is a necessary component of any healthy friendship or relationship.

If you don’t know who you are and what you do, you won’t be able to form a genuine relationship with yourself.

3. Consider how you would help a friend in a similar scenario

Try to put yourself in the shoes of someone you care about, whether it’s a friend, a family member, or someone else you admire.

Take a moment to think about what they’re going through and how you can best assist and advise them in this situation.

Speak gently to yourself the words you’ve chosen. Take care of yourself and allow yourself to feel loved and cared for.

4. Praise yourself

Instead of waiting for others to compliment you, give yourself some love. Reflect on your accomplishments, savor the moment, and enjoy the reward.

As a friend would, not in a mocking or self-deprecating manner. 

Smile at yourself and laugh at your idiosyncratic habits of speech, thought, or behavior. Your inner harmony and wholeness are enhanced when you stop taking yourself too seriously.

5. Clear your mind.

You don’t have to believe or act on a thought just because it pops into your head. Some thoughts should not be taken at face value. Remember that you have the choice of whether or not to believe self-defeating thoughts.

By imagining that your conscious awareness has taken a step backward, out of your mind, you can practice the mindfulness technique known as “standing back” from your thoughts.

Rather than having to engage with the thoughts that arise, you can simply observe them. Use it when you’re having thoughts that aren’t helpful.

No matter what you require, allow yourself to place it at the top of your priority list. Make it happen for yourself by being there for yourself.

6. Accept yourself instead of punishing.

For how long does a good friend bombard you with a barrage of verbal criticism? No, without passing vicious judgment, a true friend embraces both the good and the bad in you.

There is no such thing as a perfect person, and everyone harbors a monster of some kind.

As well as being the healthier choice, accepting who you are and what you’ve got opens up new possibilities for dealing with your problems.

7. Learn to enjoy yourself alone.

The majority of us associate enjoyment with other human contacts when we think of it.

It’s a sad truth that many of us have learned to enjoy life in the company of others, rather than solely in the company of ourselves, by going to the movies, playing sports, attending interest groups, and booking a table at a restaurant. 

Create a fun hobby that you can pursue on your own. As a result, your relationship with yourself will be strengthened.

8. Spend time learning about your personality and character.

What drives and motivates you, what are your favorite and least favorite things, and what are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?

Because they haven’t spent enough time developing a strong sense of self, people often look outside of themselves for the formation of their tastes, ideas, goals, and pursuits. 

Knowing and accepting who you are as a unique individual rather than a product of your environment or the opinions of others will become easier the more introspective and introspective you become in your life.

9. Send love to the part of you that is in pain.

Self-compassion is a skill that must be learned if you want to be a best friend to yourself. Compassion is non-aggressive and non-problem-solving.

Without the need to control or change anything in the world, compassion is a state of acceptance, peace, and love. Compassion is a powerful force in human life. 

Take a step back and think of yourself as both a child and your mother at the same time. As you open yourself up to receiving compassion, do the same.

10. Look for solitude.

You need time alone, away from the world’s distractions and dramas, to develop a good level of self-awareness and understanding.

Developing a strong connection with yourself requires that you learn to appreciate the healing properties of solitude.

To be your own best friend, you must be able to tolerate being alone and relish your own company.

The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself: Be Your Own Best Friend

A life spent gaining others’ respect and affection. You’ve spent the last half of your life trusting them blindly with all of your darkest secrets to having as many best friends as possible.

It is said that the more friends you have, the better your life will be. You believe that by doing so, you’re demonstrating your worthiness for their love and time, your trustworthiness, and your respect.

Anybody can handle anything if they learn to be themselves. Why? Because only you know how you feel and how to overcome your pain.

But you must make the decisions and deal with the consequences, not your closest friends. No one else will stand up for you when you’re being criticized.

In the face of something new, scary, or difficult, your best friends may not always be there to support you. A quick reply to every text or phone call may not always be possible.

They won’t always be in one place at the same time to be rescued in the early morning. They don’t have a radar that tells them to be by your side in trouble.

The truth is, they can’t do everything for you, and you can’t do everything for them. In the end, you are your own best friend. If you don’t change, you’re stuck with yourself.

Your best friend will never truly be your best friend unless you first become that person.

However, only you can make your life interesting. You alone can bring joy into your life. You alone can change your life’s trajectory.

Nobody else can do it for you. Finally, you can be your bestie. Loving yourself is possible, just like loving your best friends.

It’s a matter of trying and it’s time to choose yourself and be there for yourself.