How To Be A Gentleman? (3 Steps)

Being a gentleman sways and swoons every girl’s heart. You want that, do you? But isn’t being a gentleman all about how you dress?

Apparently not, being a gentleman is also about how you treat others and how you conduct yourself in public. What defines a gentleman in today’s modern society?

There are three ways to be a gentleman; A gentleman must be presentable, must act politely, and courteous not just to women but to everyone of all ages. If you are in a relationship, you must shower your girl with affection, gifts, and respect. 

Continue reading this article if you wish to become a true gentleman. This guide will show you how to be a gentleman in three easy ways. If you are in a relationship and want to be an extra gentleman with your girl, we got it here too!

What Is A Gentleman: Then and Now

What Is A Gentleman: Then and Now

In the past, a gentleman was a man of high social status and wealth. Even today, dictionaries retain this and several other definitions, including:

  • A man who is chivalrous, courteous, or honorable.
  • A formal or polite way of addressing a man.
  • A nobleman who is a member of the royal household.
  • A man of good social standing, particularly one who enjoys wealth and leisure.
  • A respectful title for a male House of Commons or House of Representatives colleague.

The question is, what does it mean in practice? To be a gentleman, you need more than just courtesy; traditional acts of chivalry can be condescending, and “honor” is a highly subjective concept.

As a sign of refinement and character, the term “gentleman” is no longer applicable to those who don’t have to work for a living, as it once was.

To us, the term “gentleman” is far more inclusive, and nowadays, one must earn the right to use the term. When it comes to the modern definition of success, wealth and power simply aren’t enough. You can’t buy class or respect with money or power.

Our definition of the modern gentleman is a complex one. We believe that anyone can be a gentleman if they put their mind to it, but it’s not an easy task. You think of it as an ongoing journey rather than a destination. a gentleman is:

  • A gentleman is imperfect
  • A gentleman has high standards
  • A gentleman is well dressed 
  • A gentleman has good manners
  • A gentleman is open-minded
  • A gentleman is interesting and informed
  • A gentleman’s actions match his words
  • A gentleman treats people with respect
  • A gentleman recognizes the difference between arrogance and confidence. 

How To Be A Gentleman

How To Be A Gentleman

For centuries, the phrase “the perfect gentleman” has been a revered aspiration ideal. Some friends and lovers come and go, but the idea that men should strive to be gentlemen is everlasting.

A gentleman’s code can be hard to adhere to in today’s troubled, perplexing, and technologically advanced world. The term “gentleman” raises an interesting question: what does it mean to be a gentleman?

Below are our “must-have” tips on how to be a gentleman, but keep in mind that these tips also apply to the ladies in your life. Be proud that you are a true gentleman by incorporating these principles into your day-to-day activities as much as you can

Step 1: Be Presentable 

Maintain proper hygiene

A true gentleman must maintain his hygiene at all times, except when you’re engaged in physical activity. It’s important to take care of your body regularly and make sure you look nice and clean before you leave the house.

Make sure to bathe often. Do not use too much deodorant or cologne when applying them for it can be unpleasant.

Clean and fresh smells are more important than how attractive you are or how good your clothes look. So people don’t pay attention to a bad smell or look, hygiene needs to be good.

After you go to the bathroom, wash your hands. To protect yourself and others from getting sick, a gentleman makes sure that the disease doesn’t spread. Other men in the bathroom will also notice if you don’t use the sinks.

Dress impeccably

In the end, it’s all about personal preference, so don’t be afraid to mix and match your shoes and suits. Make a statement by wearing a unique pair of socks, a pocket square, or a tie, but keep everything in the same color family.

Have a firm handshake

When you shake hands, make sure they are firm. A true gentleman knows how to give a real handshake. This is what you should do when you meet someone. There are a few things you should do when you meet someone for the first time. 

You should look them in the eye and hold their hand firmly to show that you mean business. The best way to show that you care enough to make an impression is to not grip too hard. This shows that you’re a gentleman who takes the time to say hello to people you meet.

Have some manners

Don’t forget to say “please” and “thank you.” Being polite when you talk to other people shows that you are not just thinking about yourself. Using manners shows that we have a real respect for other people in society and are willing to show them that.

You don’t want to be the “bad boy” who isn’t polite. A lot of people think that he has a lot more confidence in himself than he does.

Step 2: Act Politely 

Be respectful

As a gentleman, you should treat everyone with respect, not just women you’re on a first date with. Remember to be courteous to everyone you meet, even if they are outright jerks. In the end, you’ll walk away looking like a better person.

Avoid saying offensive language

Make a point not to swear all the time. An occasional slip of the tongue is fine, but don’t swear all the time. As soon as someone hears you swear, they know that you’re a bad person. It looks like you aren’t very smart or respectable.

Using the f-bomb in every sentence is a bad idea, and it doesn’t make you appear any more attractive. If you tend to spew profanity, try to keep your words to a minimum.

Respect everyone

Being a gentleman means respecting other men, the elderly, and even children, not just women. A true gentleman should be kind and respectful to everyone who deserves it. Respect a person’s space by not approaching too closely.

Avoid peering over someone’s shoulder or asking too many personal questions. The goal is to make people feel comfortable and confident, not mistreated.

Be honest

When it comes to dating and relationships, as the saying goes, honesty is best. There is no such thing as fun in ‘playing games.’ It’s perfectly acceptable for a gentleman to express their admiration for another person.

Don’t talk much about yourself

There is nothing more unattractive than a guy who talks about himself nonstop. Aside from listening, this goes hand in hand. Give a succinct answer about how well your job is going when someone asks how it is going. Focus on the other person, not on your thoughts or feelings.

Avoid bringing up contentious issues

If someone brings up politics, learn to be neutral until you know them better. Shrugging works wonders. A gentleman doesn’t bother others.

Consider being agreeable and making people feel comfortable rather than proving your point and dismissing the opposing viewpoint. Women are more impressed by your ability to get along with people than by your ability to impress them.

Step 3: Be Courteous 

Respect women

Women should be respected. Treating a woman like meat is the worst thing you can do to her.

You should never ogle or treat women like a visual feast because they are human beings with thoughts, hopes, and goals. Instead of staring at a new woman as if mentally undressing her, ask her her name and get to know her.

Hold the door open for people

Yes, this one is old-fashioned, but it never gets old to open doors for strangers! It’s an excellent way to show respect for others, regardless of their gender, age, or ability. In my opinion, there’s nothing worse than having someone in front of you slam the door in your face.

Family comes first

In the event of an emergency, prioritize your family’s needs over your own. If a member of your family or a close friend is unwell, consider offering your assistance and taking care of them. Thank you so much for all of your hard work!

Be consistently punctual

A gentleman is never late for anything. Time management is an essential part of being a gentleman, even if you’re tempted to be fashionably late at times or distracted by other aspects of your life. It’s rude to make others wait for you; it reflects poorly on you.

Never show off your wealth

There’s no need to be arrogant when discussing your finances with others, no matter how much money you have or how little money you have.

It is unseemly to boast about one’s wealth, as it makes others feel insignificant, and it is simply unseemly. The only thing that matters is how much money you have in your bank account.

How To Be Gentleman In A Relationship

How To Be Gentleman In A Relationship

Don’t give up on a relationship halfway through

The road to happiness isn’t always smooth, no matter how much you and your partner love each other. Even in the most difficult of times, a gentleman will always be there for his partner as a source of support and encouragement.

Give her lots of affection

Show your girlfriend or wife how much you care by giving her a hug or kiss. As long as you’re out in public, you can hold her hand, put your arm around her shoulder, or kiss her on the cheek. Even though you’re alone, you can be a little more intimate when you’re together.

Be selfless

Do nice things for your girlfriend when you’re around her. This way, she will know that you want to help. That little act of kindness will mean more than you know. It’s also important not to make the girl feel helpless or that you have to do everything for her. 

Make sure you pay attention if she gets angry when you try to help her or carry things for her. You might want to back off and help her when she needs it, not just as a show.

Stand up for her 

Nobody should be punched if she’s looked at by someone who doesn’t want to. If someone is giving her looks or unwanted attention, intervene. Move away from her or put your arm around her shoulder and move away from each other.

Speak up for her. Assaulter knows that they’ll have to deal with both of you. Not being gentlemanly is letting other men try to get your girl or making lewd comments about her.

Give her a surprise gift

 It can be nice to show up with a card or a flower, even if it’s not a holiday. Expensive and flashy doesn’t matter; it’s how hard you work. A rose, a note on her pillow, a book she’s been wanting to read, or a heartfelt kiss will make any girl happy for days.

It will show her that you think about her even when she’s not around and that you took the time to get her something.

Don’t criticize her to your friends

Is being a true gentleman important to you? Then you should never say bad things about the girl you’re dating in front of your friends. The way you talk about your girlfriend or act like you’re not into her is very disrespectful and lame, and it will make you look bad.

As a rule, the only time that you talk about your partner with your friends is when you want to praise or ask for their help in a certain situation.

Don’t force her to do anything

A true gentleman respects a woman’s boundaries and knows when to stop. Respect her decision if she doesn’t want to sleep with you, or even come close before you get married or make a long-term commitment

Every woman has her limits and ideas about what she wants to do with her body. Avoid making her do more than she wants to. Also, do not make her feel bad for sticking to what she wants.


To be regarded as a gentleman is the pinnacle of achievement because it is a title bestowed by others. We frequently use the term gentleman, and we think it should mean something. It’s not just an address; being a gentleman is an expression of your identity and your aspirations. 

With this article, you are one step closer to your gentleman’s dream. Although these attributes are pretty “common sense” and come naturally but for some who aren’t used to caring for others, we hope this article will guide and help you. 

Joe Davies